I am not going to lie, but the only people who are going to be able to relate to this post are guys in their 20s who are living in the United States!
Unless you fit that demographic, don’t be sad if you have no idea about some of these things I am going to be talking about.
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There are just so many life-changing decisions we make during our 20s.
And that’s a good thing! 20s is the time when we discover ourselves and our careers are set.
For some of us, it’s when we meet our spouse!
We are all different and have different background and live in a different society…
Most of us in our 20s can relate to these.
So, shall we begin?
You come to the realization that you are no longer a teenager.
How many of you guys have come to this realization? Raise your hand…
Yeah, thought so. Pretty much ALL of us at some point just stopped and thought, “Wow…I am not even a teen anymore…This is depressing as hell! I am becoming older than dirt!
This is especially true after we turn 21…
But the good thing is, this is okay.
I mean, the older we get, the more sex appeal we have to the ladies right?
In fact, there is some research out there that women actually prefer the guys with the bald or grey hairs because it shows a sign of social maturity.
There is a biological and evolutionary base behind this thought process.
But, still when you find out you’re not a teen anymore, it just feels a bit scary.
Like, if you do something stupid, no one can look at you and just say, “Oh he is just an immature teenager.”
Oh well, life goes on…
You start to notice a receding hairline and thinner hair.
It’s seriously depressing! It started happening to me when I was only like 15.
But, for many guys who get male pattern baldness, this starts to happen around the early or mid-20s.
There is obviously a lot of research out there on this topic and there are actually some decent remedies out there as well, but still, this is a scary thought to have when you are only 20 and have all the girls staring at your bald head!
The thought of that just makes me shiver!
I am no doctor, so I cannot prescribe anything for this annoying problem we face..
I can say that if you have androgenetic alopecia (male pattern baldness) usually a combination therapy of Minoxidil and Finasteride tends to produce the best results when it comes to slowing down, stopping, or even re-growing some of the hair back.
You begin to think of relationships more seriously and think “long term”
Any girl you meet and have even the slightest interest in, you immediately begin to imagine how she would be as a wife. That’s the first thing that comes to your head when you begin to imagine a relationship with her.
This is a bit different from when we were in high school.
In high school, our thoughts and dreams about girls were a lot more short term. We never imagined things like what it would be like to raise a kid with her, or what it would be like living with her, or waking up every morning beside her on a bed.
But when we are in our twenties, these are all concrete thoughts. We begin to kind of see the future and begin to work backwards to get to the future.
This is actually a really good thing for strategic long-term planning.
But we all know this one is not true for all guys…
Many of them are not interested in anything but a “smash n’ pass.”
I am not saying that it’s a bad thing to think like that, but it’s definitely not how I would want to look at girls.
It’s much more satisfying to engage in those kinds of activities with a girl you love and care for :P
You come to the realization that you just paid to go to school to get a job so you have a job to pay for school.
For many of you, this may not happen till after you graduate, but for those of you who are socially savvy, you will realize this and it will make no sense to you at all.
But the thing is, most of us don’t really figure this out until we are almost done with college! But, if you really think about it, it’s true.
You spend all this time and money and even borrow money so you can go to school and get an edumacation right?
But then what?
You feel like you are owed a what?
It does not exactly work like that.
It’s not what you know that makes you valuable. It’s what you can do with what you know that really makes you an asset.
So, my suggestion here is that, don’t let school interfere with your education.
Let learning take its own natural course.
Self-education will take you much further than a college degree and it may even land you a job…
One that you actually deserve ;)
You begin to realize that may be your parents are not your worst enemy! In fact, you realize just how much they actually sacrificed for YOU!
If you have not already come to this realization/conclusion, you will trust me. For most of us at least, we hate our parents during our teenage years.
We think all they want for us is bad things and they want to restrict us for the rest of our lives.
It does to me!
This is not usually the case.
In fact, your parents are probably one of the few people on earth who love you unconditionally.
So, my advice here is to respect them and to spend as much time with them as you can.
God puts parents into our lives to take care of us. And then He takes them away before we even know it.
So, try to do as much for your parents as you can while you still have them around.
You will regret it later if you don’t!
Your friend circle changes quite a bit but your college friends stay around and go on to become your close friends for life.
This is true for most of us.
When you are in your twenties, you will notice that your friends will actually start to become a lot more targeted.
You will see yourself spending more time with those who are like you in more ways than one, and less time with those old friends with whom you no longer have much in common.
And, this is okay!
You should be trying to spend more time with those you connect with well and those friends who can influence you positively.
This way, you are continuously surrounded by people who support you and motive you in your endeavors.
You try to set up the best scenario for yourself involving friends, family, SO, your passions, and support from the community.
I know for a fact that all of us guys in our twenties have some vision in mind of what would be the ideal life.
For the vast majority of us, it involves friends, family, significant other, being able to pursue his dreams, and support from the community in his endeavors.
The thing is that setting up this “perfect” life so early on in our twenties is actually very hard.
It takes time.
I mean, I am now in my time and this is the phase I am stuck in also.
I am trying to reevaluate life and figure out exactly what I want out of it.
I am also trying to figure out exactly how I want my perfect life to be set up.
Personally, I think going to explore and try different things to see what you like and what you dislike is probably the best way to discover what you really want in life.
I am doing just that, and I think you should too! :D
Your twenties really are some of the best years of your life.
There is a lot of learning and evaluation and discovering that happens during these years. So, expect that, but continue to grow and develop yourself and follow your dreams.
Most importantly, be happy.
The famous self-help author, Dale Carnegie, once said, “You cannot live in the past. And you cannot live in the future. So, enjoy each moment as it comes. Stop worrying and start living!”
The thoughts I mentioned in this blog will come across the minds of most guys in their twenties but not all.
If something on this list does not pertain to you, then just ignore it until it does come up.
I am sure there are many things on this list which I left off.
But I did that on purpose ;)
So, that you can comment below and tell me what I missed!
Okay, good luck bros! :)